Why Is Dating So Hard These Days?

Staggering advances in technology, communications and sciences across the world is one of the defining aspects of the last few decades. From social media websites to free video calling services from anywhere in the world just being a phone’s click away it would appear that the millennial generation has it all. But if we move past all the smartphones and gadgets and websites and take a hard look at the lives of Gen Y, we will notice that dating has become harder than ever.

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Why Is Dating So Hard These Days

The principal reason behind dating being so hard these days is that over the course of the last decade people’s lives have become increasingly demanding and hectic. Our jobs, be it in the industry or private business or academia have left most of us feeling drained at the end of a hard day’s work. Taking the extra initiative to put an effort in building new relationships and associations seems like an uphill task.

Because of laptops, social media and smart phones, work no longer remains confined in office cubicles but manages to reach the dinner tables and the bedrooms. Personal life slowly gets swallowed in a relentless sleepless cycle of spreadsheets, graphs, Powerpoint slides and sales figures. If we somehow manage to keep our jobs out of our personal lives we may have the chance to have more fulfilling dating lives.

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Dating So Hard These Days

One would assume that with so many dating websites, chat rooms and messenger services available at fingertips, dating would have become a lot easier. Surprisingly, not only has it not become easier, but bad experiences from these dating services have put many people off the very idea of dating. It’s such common news story that a young boy or girl falls victim to some predator through one of these websites, it has become a borderline sociological cliché.

Unsavory events such as this have subsequently led to serious crimes like robberies, fraud and even murder. This makes people more and more wary of using such websites; even if they do there are apprehensive of opening up and overly guarded in their responses which defeats the very purpose of such websites. It has an even worse effect on the minds of people because it literally goes to show you that there are a great number of people looking to date but none of them are compatible with you. This often leads to a serious lack in confidence and self esteem and even depression in many cases.

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Reasons why Is Dating So Hard These Days

With the highly specialized areas of work in today’s job market and the frenzied pace of life in the corporate/academic world, there is very little chance of forging associations outside one’s sphere of work. This leads to more and more couples springing up from the same workplace. While initially, it may provide a familiar setting and make it easier to broach topics of conversation these relationships or dating paradigms usually turn sour after a while because it is hard to remain objective about professional business standards while sharing working space with one’s date.

A look at hard statistical estimates of celebrities or actors or musicians who have dated people in their line of work reveals disproportionate amount of these relationships ending badly after a short period of time. While it is conceivable that many healthy relationships could spring from the workplace, one must always keep in mind that the element of competition between two partners needs to be weeded out when they start seeing each other seriously.

Another related problem in today’s dating world is the fact that when couples from work start dating; they inevitably bring work and the disputes at work back home with them. This consequently affects their personal life and relationship dynamics to an extent that they eventually break up.

The Psychological Pressures of Contemporary Societies Are Too Much To Handle

“I would not like to belong to any club that would have me as one of its members” remarked Woody Allen as an analogy about dating in his famous movie Annie Hall.  This mental setup is common among a growing section of people.

The attributes that have come to define us and the overexposure that the 21st century human is subjected to leaves no dearth of psychological problems. More and more people each year are diagnosed with clinical depression and anxiety problems. This becomes a detriment when it comes to dating. With dissatisfying home, office or academic environments the relationship in many cases become the dumping ground for emotional baggage.

While sometimes it is good to share and spell out feelings as they stand it is not healthy to keep using your date as an emotional crutch over and over again. It is therefore advisable to work on your trust, abandonment or other issues before embarking on healthy dating choices.


  1. Well unfortunately this is a very extremely bad time for many of us good men trying to find real true love now since this isn’t the good old days anymore when real love came very easy back then. Most women are very picky nowadays which they will only want the very best of all and will never settle for less either. With so many women now that have their careers which most of them without a doubt are very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, greedy, picky like i just mentioned, narcissists, and very money hungry as well. Most of the women today will just go for Rich Men since they really like men to just spend money on them all the time which unfortunately many of these good innocent men are really being taken advantage of by these type of women. And these type of women are very Pathetic altogether anyway since they’re nothing but Users And Losers as well too. So it is very sad that we have these type of women nowadays that are like this since they will sleep around with all different kinds of men to just get what they want out of them which is a real shame. Since i had this happened to me already which i will certainly be very Cautious now since i know friends that had this happened to them as well. As for the good old days like i just mentioned in the very beginning of my comment which Most of the women back then were the very best of all since they were totally the opposite of what these women are today as you can see. It was certainly a much better time years ago for finding real true love the way that it happened for our family members since many of our family members are still together today as i speak which is very amazing when you think about it They were very Blessed by God back then when they really found real true love with one another which is why many of us are here today. And unfortunately it has become so very Dangerous for many of us men trying to start a normal conversation with a woman that we would really like to meet since they’re certainly Not Friendly at all since they will be Very Nasty to us and walk away. Just remember since it does really Take Two To Tango today which i can see why many of us good men are still single now.

  2. Well with the kind of women that we now have out there nowadays which certainly tells the whole story right there. Doesn’t it? Well i would really say so. Quite a real change in the women of today compared to the old days which years ago love really did come very easy.


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